"The impulse to love grows as man rises; but wisdom alone is not sufficient for this purpose. We perfect ourselves through our acts of love, and so the world becomes richer through our acts of love, for love is the creative aspect in the world." (Rudolf Steiner)


...love, if it is blind, is not true love, and furthermore, if love only serves to repair a relationship, it is not true love.

When you love, there is no problem in expressing yourself and what you think. Of course, sometimes criticism may not be appreciated, but it is the only way to deepen understanding, to deeply analyze our feelings.

However, thought is always abstract, while action is always concrete. And what is concrete is that a true love relationship cannot be undermined by fleeting emotions dictated by momentary moods. If we were to leave our partner, our friends, our relatives, ultimately everyone we meet along the way, just because they criticized us or we criticized them... what sense would our common belonging be? What sense would there be in knowing that we are co-existing in the same existence? Aren't we, secular spiritualists, aware of the inseparability of life?

Even if I harshly criticize someone, it doesn't mean I'm pushing them from my heart... I criticize an action because, in my personal opinion, it doesn't align with my thoughts, but thoughts... thoughts, are we perhaps masters of our own thoughts? Can we decide in advance what we will think? Or what is right to think?

So in a loving relationship, there's no need to worry, because love transcends all "disappointment," because those who love have never been "deluded"... but are perfectly aware and lovingly accept their own state of love.

In this freedom, we can also observe with detached eyes the events and actions that punctuate our lives, like crows observing with two eyes, each located on the opposite side of the same head.

Paolo D’Arpini - Committee for Lay Spirituality